About me and why I’m doing this… O.K. deep breath…. here goes…
Big fatty fat girl.
These were the names I was called constantly growing up.
Also: you’ll never get married, you’re too fat! (Well, I got married twice, so in your face, naysayers!)
And here I was.
Hold up, what does negative body image messages during childhood have to do with making candles?
Let me sneak you into backstage and show you the grand plan…
Firstly, from my (extensive) experience, I know that 99.9% of you reading this have some kind of negative body image issue. I wouldn’t need to be an expert to guesstimate that, from hang-ups about jiggly bits to full-scale obsessions about food.
And I also know this kind of thinking starts, sometimes, during kindergarten.
5 year olds wanting to go on diets. It’s happening. Now.
I want it to stop.
What’s the best way to layer a new belief over self-talk?
I realised that I had a children’s book in me (or a couple). It has to start with this one.
(Nice story Sonya, still… how is this about candles?)
Here’s where you get happy about buying someone a copy of Stormclouds to Sunshine children’s book:
All profits from my Shining Light candles went into to the production of this book. (cos it’s really expensive producing a book let me tell you!) The first story. The tale that I hope will be read in bedrooms at night with our little humans who need to hear that they are delicious and perfect just the way they are.
Fatty Bombah. Chubster.
I don’t want your kids, your friends’ kids or any kids taking the names they’re called and wearing them like toxic little jackets.
Because you know what? When I grew up and lost all my ‘puppy fat’ (that’s what they called in the 80’s, do you remember that?)
I have continued to believe I was still the fat girl in my head.
Always on a diet when I didn’t need to be.
Hating myself for eating ‘bad’ food, then spending an hour at the gym punishing myself for eating it.
Eating a salad when all I wanted was a pie.
Obsessing over what I looked like instead of being grateful for what I was born with.
Is it any wonder we’re exhausted? It’s a full time job obsessing over hating our bodies isn’t it?
Well, I got myself some therapy, took off my toxic jacket that was ‘Fat Sonya’, and started to live a little. I decided I wanted the delectable feeling of freedom for all our kids.
So, purchase a book (or a candle), keep it or give it to someone you love. When you read it, know you’re helping make a difference. You’re going to be adding a little more light into the life of a child.
Girls don’t just decide to hate their bodies. We teach them.
Let’s tell them a different story.
Sonya is married, a full-time working mum and a current serving member of the Royal Australian Air Force, a career spanning 26 years. She is a certified practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and intends to conduct volunteer work developing education programs for schools that promote positive body image with a vision of introducing them into schools. Sonya is currently studying a Cert IV in business with the Prince’s Charities Australia via the HRH Prince Charles Lead Your Own Business Program. ‘Storm clouds to Sunshine’ is just the beginning.. I want to help our future shining lights. Please click on the
Stormclouds to Sunshine Link to check it out